When Wanting Isn’t Enough

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There was a moment when I could see it on my own face, that familiar hesitation. I wanted to move forward. I knew what I wanted. And yet, something in me kept pausing, stalling, circling. Not because I didn’t care. Not because I wasn’t ready. But because part of me was still listening to an old story.

I didn’t always know that’s what it was.

I used to think being stuck meant I needed more motivation, more discipline, a better plan. I told myself if I could just figure out the right strategy, everything would click. But what I eventually learned is that I wasn’t failing to move forward , I was protecting myself. My nervous system was doing exactly what it was designed to do: keep me safe inside what it already understood.

There were seasons when I could see the next version of my life so clearly it almost hurt. The opportunities were there. The desire was there. And still, I couldn’t move. I procrastinated. I started things and stalled out. I tried to push through and then quietly pulled back. For a long time, I believed something was wrong with me.

What was really happening was much simpler and much kinder than that.

I was trying to take next-level action from an identity that hadn’t caught up yet. I was attempting to build a future using patterns that were created for my past. And the nervous system will always choose familiarity over expansion, even when familiarity feels uncomfortable.

It’s the same reason so many lottery winners end up worse off than before. The money changes. The life doesn’t. Because nothing inside has shifted. Beliefs about safety, worth, and identity stay the same and they quietly pull everything back to what’s known.

When I finally understood that, the self-blame dissolved. I realized I wasn’t broken. I wasn’t lazy. I wasn’t failing.

I was growing.

Your nervous system isn’t your enemy. It whispers things like stay small, don’t risk being seen, don’t move too fast not to sabotage you, but to protect you. The problem comes when that protection is outdated. When the system that once kept you safe becomes the very thing holding you back.

Growth doesn’t happen by forcing yourself forward. It happens when your inner world upgrades to match where you’re going.

Because here’s the truth:
You can’t move into a future your nervous system doesn’t feel safe inhabiting.

But once safety catches up with desire…
momentum becomes natural.

And life?
Life gets delicious.

3 Quotes to Ponder:

Thought Experiments to Try Today:

1. Picture the version of you who already moved through this.
   Not the perfect version. Not the finished version. Just the one who took the next small step and didn’t make it mean everything. How does she think about time? About risk? About herself? If you let her choose one tiny action for you today, what would it be?

   You don’t have to answer these perfectly.
   You don’t even have to write them down.

   Just let them linger.
   Sometimes a thought experiment is enough to loosen an old grip.

   And when the grip loosens… movement follows.

   1 Action Step Journal Prompt:
   What version of myself have I been avoiding stepping into and what is one tiny action I could take today?

   Pause first. Take a few quiet breaths. Let your body settle.
   Then write freely, without editing or fixing.

   Growth often begins with the smallest honest answers.

📖 Book I’m Reflecting On This Week

(yes, it’s mine and written for moments exactly like this)

It’s a story about a character who grows tired of living inside familiar dissatisfaction…
and chooses to step beyond what’s known in order to find what’s true.

Sometimes we stay in situations that don’t feel good simply because we understand them.
The known discomfort feels safer than the unknown possibility.

This book is for anyone who senses there’s more and is learning how to become the person who can hold it. You don’t have to do it alone or keep looping the same thought patterns that aren't serving you.

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